Throwaway because my partner knows my main.
Moved from Denver to DFW 6 months ago for my partner's job. They got a great offer and we agreed it made sense. But I'm really struggling.
What's hard:
- I work remote so I don't have a built-in social circle here
- My partner works 50+ hours and has their own friend group from work
- I don't know anyone here. Like, zero people.
- DFW is so spread out that everything feels far and car-dependent
- I miss mountains. A lot.
What I've tried:
- Meetup groups (went to 2, felt awkward, haven't gone back)
- Working from coffee shops (helps the isolation but not the loneliness)
- Exploring DFW solo (done Bishop Arts, Deep Ellum, Sundance Square, Fort Worth Stockyards — all great but solo activities hit different)
What I need:
- Honest advice from anyone who moved here for a partner
- How long did it take to feel like home?
- How do you build a life that's YOUR life and not just an extension of your partner's?
I love my partner. I don't regret the move. But man, I'm in a funk.
Is it just me?
I did this exact thing 3 years ago. Moved from Seattle for my wife's job. First 8 months were brutal. By month 12 I had my own thing going. Hang in there — it takes longer than you want but it does happen.