My partner got a job offer in Austin. I can't leave DFW because of my job (in-person, no remote option) and my family is here.
We've been together 2 years. The options:
Option A: Long distance (DFW to Austin)
- 3-3.5 hour drive each way
- $60-80 in gas round trip
- Or $120-250 flights (DAL to AUS on Southwest)
- See each other every other weekend?
Option B: They decline and stay in DFW
- $20K less salary than Austin offer
- Might resent the decision later
Option C: Break up
- Neither of us wants this but "be realistic" is what everyone keeps saying
What I need to know:
- Has anyone done DFW to Austin long distance? How long did it last?
- Is the drive actually doable every other weekend or does it get old fast?
- At what point do you decide to close the gap?
I've never done long distance. I don't know if I'm built for it.
Am I wrong here?
My honest advice: set a deadline. "We do long distance for X months and then one of us moves." Open-ended long distance is what kills it.